The Talk
One night, I told my boyfriend one fantasy I wanted fulfilled. It was movie-night. When he asked me what I wanted to watch, I replied with one word: “porn.” I said it a little too casually, but the look on his face was priceless. At first, he laughed, but when he saw my serious expression, his face turned giddy. He was quite accommodating, too.
He, like many men, stored an array of his own sexual fantasies on his computer, but I knew what I wanted. I had done my homework. Prior to that night, I searched adult sites until I found a video that illustrated what I wanted him to do to me. When we were together, I grabbed his computer mouse, found the video and hit play. As the scene progressed, I whispered in his ear, “I'd like to try that.”
Easy As Pie
If you're shy, it's easier to use a visual tool to tell your partner what you want. Visual aids ease the awkward talk, and some specialized videos give step-by-step instructions, from everything to positioning to lubricant ideas. (SEE:
Visual Guides Through Sexual Fantasies)
Do not be afraid to share your fantasies with your significant other. If you can't communication with your partner about what turns you on, then whom can you tell? What's the reason for your having fantasies if they never become fulfilled?
What to do
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