Am I Too Old To Orgasm

Learn how a woman in her fifties has lost her orgasm, and how she can easily get it back.

Case #: 616

Concern：

I have been having trouble achieving orgasm. I used to be multi-orgasmic but I think because of using a vibrator it might have changed the outcome. I used to be able to have an orgasm with stimulation from my fingers.

The last few months I have been having a really difficult time achieving an orgasm and I don't know why. I am somewhat depressed but I told my doctor I didn’t want to go on anti depressants because of the side effects it can have on my sexual life. I am dating someone at the moment and I used to be able to orgasm very quickly but now, sometimes I can't have an orgasm at all.

I am 59. Did this just suddenly happen because I am getting older? Is it because I am depressed? Is it from using a vibrator? I am very confused and upset with what’s going on with me.

Discussion：

As a woman in her twenties, it's a bit hard for me to fully understand what depression in your fifties might feel like. However, I do know that when I went through a long bout of depression, it definitely wreaked havoc on my orgasm receiving skills.

Depression At Any Age
This happens to many men and women during the time of being depressed because it curbs our libidos. The excitement we once had while involved in a sexual encounter has been replaced with apathy. This unfortunately, begins to create a vicious cycle because the release that an orgasm brings us is sometimes just the thing we need to boost our lethargic mood.

The Truth Shall Set You Free

The first step, in this case would be to pin point the depression by talking to a licensed therapist. Your sex life should take a back seat to your overall mental health. The second thing I would recommend for you to do is to talk to your partner. Gentility explains that you've recently been having trouble reaching orgasm and that you'd like to explore why this might be happening. I suggest this because it's important for both sexual partners to feel like they are getting what they want out of their individual sexual experience. And just by telling him this new fact about your life, some of the negative feelings that are now woven into your depression will be released.

Attack Of The Vibrations

Fortunately, your problem could simply be over-stimulation. After using a vibrator for any period of time the clitoris seems to shut down and goes into some strange biological reboot mode. Sometimes, right after having an orgasm our vaginas feel almost numb.

This doesn't mean that we've caused any sort of permanent damage to ourselves. It just means it's time to lay down the good vibrations for a while and stop masturbating. You can also try getting on a natural herb regimen to help bring back some of that lost sensitivity more quickly.

Herbal ingredients such as Dong Quai and Primrose will help to restore the good feeling to your clitoris. These and other herbs will do this by stabilizing your hormone production and will also repair any nerve damage caused by your vibrator along the way. Above all else, these herbs will increase the blood flow to the clitoris and vagina, which will improve sensitivity.